WEEK 6: Feelings Lie

Young woman holding one hand on forehead

“‘What do you think? There was a man who had two sons. He went to the first and said, ‘Son, go and work today in the vineyard.’ ‘I will not,’ he answered, but later he changed his mind and went. Then the father went to the other son and said the same thing. He answered, ‘I will, sir,’ but he did not go. Which of the two did what his father wanted?’ ‘The first,’ they answered. Jesus said to them, ‘Truly I tell you, the tax collectors and the prostitutes are entering the kingdom of God ahead of you.’” (Matthew 21:28-31, NIV)


I used to be quite emotional in my teens and early twenties – in a drama-queen kind of way.

I would also often make decisions based on what felt right at the time. Needless to say, my judgment was somewhat clouded more often than not.

Rather frequently, I would also be able to come up with an excuse why I couldn’t or shouldn’t do something that I sometimes even knew (had I used my mind) would be the better option. This meant I would even justify my actions although I was wrong.

There were two sayings that helped me overcome being a victim of circumstance, always finding an excuse for or justifying my actions or sometimes my lack of taking action. One was: “Feelings lie – own your actions and take responsibility!” At the time, those were harsh words, but I needed to hear them.

The second one was said by a friend when I told her how I didn’t have time to do proper Bible study or didn’t feel like going to church. She said: “Remember, it’s first the motion and then the emotion.”

I’ve learnt that taking action in spite of your feelings holds blessing!